I remember when both my daughter's dads died, both tragic deaths in their own ways. Brooke's dad committed suicide and Mariah's dad died from ALS/Lou Gehrig's Disease. People don't know what to say so they offer an empty cliche.
Just say, "I'm so sorry for your loss."
Asking questions why do you think this happened? Was it karma? These are ignorant questions.
What I found odd was acquaintance's who stepped up out of no where and filled the role of family members you expect to be supportive, but they didn't want to bother.
You honestly don't know who these people truly are until a tragedy hits.
Or, not even a tragedy. An engagement.
Mariah's feelings have been so hurt over her engagement. Simple acquaintance's she gives no thought to over the moon happy for her & Jeremy's engagement and family members who have become ugly.
The same family members who have been her best friends, welcomed her in to their family the last year or so who have blindsided her in not approving.
It's an ugly thing to face and it does hurt feelings. They are the ones who are ugly and their true colors are showing.
No situation is ever perfect to everyone and you cannot control what others think or say. You can however define healthy boundaries for those who are ugly and simply protect your perfect.
Mariah and Jeremy have done everything "the right way" going into their marriage. It just goes to show you cannot make everyone happy.
A lot of unconditional love conversations are being had and I am so pleased both Mariah & Jeremy view our family (including Grandma & Papa and Uncle Jason & fam) as unconditional love. If Mariah has thought nothing of this being normal to her, Jeremy has pointed it out on several occasions to her and she is learning the beauty of unconditional love.
Define your boundaries, baby girl, and protect what you love.
