I know I am an alpha
female. I always have been and years, life and experience has well-honed this
trait. The article below caught my attention. Some things are hard to explain
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Alpha Females are often
terribly misunderstood by Beta women and lesser males. The reality is, they will not be confined
by “appropriateness,” and choose to be defined by their courage, bravery, and
their decisions to go after the life they want.
Here are 7 common misconceptions
about an alpha female that are actually pretty [exhaustingly] annoying:
1.
They're sarcastic because they’re mean.
Alphas are sarcastic with their
friends because they’re playful and want to bond, not because they’re mean.
Their sarcasm is humorous, not rude, by nature. They like to play around not
because they dislike people, but because they want to eliminate barriers
between people. They would never laugh at you if they didn’t think you could
laugh at them too. [This I disagree with completely.
Never am I sarcastic with my female friends; rather, warm, supportive, candid,
honest, encouraging and transparent. There is no competition in friendship.
Truly confident women do not compete, those who compete are insecure.
2.
Alphas are bitches.
People often confuse having a
backbone for being a bitch. It’s very easy to get along with someone who is
more submissive, a "go with the flow” attitude, someone who doesn’t open
their mouth when they don’t like something.
But an alpha female will risk tension
because she will not put her needs aside to keep the peace at any cost. If she
feels disrespected, she will call that person out. When this happens, it’s easy
to call her a “bitch” because she’s not easy
and she’ll call you out on your crap, but the reality is she just has balls,
respect for herself and her boundaries.
3.
They're blunt because they like drama.
No, they're actually blunt because
they want to avoid drama. [Absolutely!
Afraid of drama, no way. If I fight for anything, I fight for love, life and
happiness.] Think about all those times that someone held in their
feelings and then an issue built up and exploded. One thing to take off your
list of worries is having that happen around an alpha female.
Alpha females do not like to argue,
their approach to conflicts is more direct so it may appear like they do, but
don’t be fooled - an alpha wants to listen and talk things out in a meaningful
and real way so that fights are avoided, not started.
4.
Alphas are high-maintenance.
Alphas are not high-maintenance,
they just know their worth. Girls who think of themselves as "chill"
or "low maintenance" often misconceive themselves as such, and end up
being doormats instead of girlfriends.
The other facets of their personality
and what makes them unique gets suffocated under his needs. An
alpha will instead focus on her own integrity and worth. That’s scary for a lot
of lesser males because they know that she isn’t obsessed about keeping him if
that means she has to sacrifice any of her own needs.
5.
Alphas are insensitive.
Being all gooey is extremely
difficult for an Alpha. She’s had to go through a lot of people’s bullshit, so
her hard exterior is just her reaction to the world’s crap.
It’s often the people that are tough
and don’t show their emotions easily on the outside are the ones who are the
most sensitive inside. An alpha is actually overly sensitive and affectionate
underneath all that sass.
6.
Alphas want everyone to agree with everything that they say and any opinion
that they have.
That’s probably the biggest
misconception of all. The thing about an alpha female is they like to
challenge, and they often call people out on their bullshit - which makes
people get really defensive.
Alphas like to speak to people bluntly
and to their face - not because they disregard any opinions other than their
own or try to convince everyone of theirs, but because they like to challenge.
But often, just because someone needs to hear it, doesn’t mean it’s always what
they want to hear and alphas end up being labeled as “controlling.”
7.
Alphas are controlling.
If there is a problem, she likes to
solve it. An alpha is a hard worker and is passionate about her ideas. This is
often misunderstood by lesser males and females as wanting dominance
or control - but that is further from the truth.
She is often the leader in a group
because she voices her opinions and ideas and can make fast decisions. She is
extremely independent and sometimes she speaks like she know it all because she
does. Just kidding. Kinda. She is just sure of herself and that comes through
in her voice - but it’s not arrogance that you’re hearing, it’s passion,
confidence and experience.
And her ultimate goal? To makes
things better.
